At the beginning
1.You have to realize what finding partner abroad means. Ask yourself some questions. Are you ready to spend time and money in order
to search for your ideal wife so far away from home? Are you ready to overcome
numerous difficulties connected with legal aspects of marrying a foreigner,
moving in/out and your future wife's adaptation in an unfamiliar country,
language and mentality barrier? Are you ready to go on journey in the near
future (approximately in 6 months)? Your letter will be met with more interest
if you write about your future trip plans.
2.Try to determine, what kind of partner you need: age, children, lifestyle,
spiritual qualities, interests and appearance. You'll find your happiness sooner
if you compare your wishes and abilities, your lifestyle and lifestyle to which
your potential darling aspires.
3.Be prepared that you'll have to meet several girls before you make
your final decision, since only personal communication can show if you're
compatible, interesting to each other and if there is a chance of chemistry.
4.You'll hardly be able to visit lots of countries and cities - keep it
in mind while browsing the photo-album. Pay attention to her location. You
should look for ladies you could easily meet. Try to determine a place to visit
where you'll have an opportunity to meet several potential brides.
Selecting ladies
1.Use the search engine to select several ladies. Then select more ladies from their cities.
The more ladies you write the larger your selection will be, you will need to
pick from those you write which ones you will meet. Writing letters should
qualify the ladies and provide you with quality contacts. At the same time
ladies usually agree to meet a man who is ready to meet them in their hometown,
therefore the correspondence is an important but not an essential condition for
the first contact.
2.If you are seeking an english-speaking woman, select those with English 4 or 5.
They don't need translations and your correspondence will be much cheaper, not
mentioning the fact that you'll be able to communicate over the telephone
without an interpreter and the adaptation period for them will be easier.
Yet most of Russian girls just don't have a language practice and they learn
pretty fast since almost all of them studied foreign languages in schools and
colleges.
3.Pay some attention to how many times woman's contact detailes were ordered if the marriage broker shows such statistics. Usually the most popular
women are more selective or just too high demand to the potential partner if they
are still available & looking after 200+ addresses retrievals. At the same time,
bear in mind that only about 5% men really meet ladies after corresponding with
them and far not all of them who got a girl's address ever write to her.
4.Try to limit yourself by the age difference not exceeding 15 years.
It's true that Russian Women prefer men who are a little bit older then themselves,
reliable, mature, prepared to take responsibility and support a woman; but you should
also take into account the fact that marriage might not stand the tests for lasting,
when the problems occur, connected with different attitude to life and when your
darling widens her circle of acquaintance thanks to you, and she gets more confidence.
5. Make your list of ladies , print or save their profiles, probably even make a folder to manage the information.
The 1st letter
1.When addressing Russian women, use her full first name, you might use "Dear Lidiya!" for example.
The agency can insert the lady's first name if you send a multiple introduction letter. Try to avoid just "Hello" or
"My beautiful princes" or "I am seeking a nice, loyal lady start a family with, if you match this, please respond".
Even though it is your introduction letter you send to several ladies from your contact list, it should make a feeling
you are writing to the one and only.
2.
If you are writing to a one particular lady, personalize the letter, try to focus on keywords she uses in her advertisement.
Like if she is interested in mountain baking and this is what you do, mention this or say you have always wanted to.
If she is saying her child brings her joy and she enjoys watching him grow up, bring up you like children too and would like to share all the beautiful moments
of their upbringing with your future wife (if this is true of course).
3. Provide essential information about yourself (height, weight, age, country of residence, profession)
4. It is necessary to tell her about youryour family status (if you're divorced or if you have children - state their age and names).
5. DO NOT EVER DO:
- speak bad about women you've dated or women in your country;
- write about your previous wife or lady-friend with intimate details in the 1st letter;
- boast about your wealth, scientific or sport achievements in the first letter. Just give an impression what your job is about and how you feel about it, that sport is important to you and you do it professionally and generally have reached certain things in life;
- list your career achievements in detail and enumerate the places you worked in and your job experience in the 1st letter, this is not a CV;
- impress her with your intelligence or money. Most Russian women are seeking for a financially secure man and this doesn't mean "rich". This means they are looking for a partner who is stable and able to provide for the family, not a money sack;
- narrate her your complete life story right at once;
- if she asks honestly report how many women you are in correspondence with and what they are like. It will hardly be taken as "honesty",
most likely a lady will not understand it. If you are asked, then it is up to you to choose whether to say or not.
You should realize a lady may be in correspondence with other man and choosing as well. Till you have serious plans and commitment such questions are improper;
- initiate controversial topics like sex, politics, economy etc. in the first letter.
6. It is worth starting at once what is important to you or what you can not tolerate.
Religious preferences, family traditions if they have a vital meaning, having children or not, health issues or some disabilities, etc.
It is necessary to inform about such things at once in order to avoid misunderstanding and false expectations.
7. Write a couple words about things you are fond of, your likes and dislikes , what makes you happy, your friends, the way of rest you prefer. It is always interesting to read about and gives plenty of room to ask a few good questions.
8. If your letter is sincere, you have true and serious intentions; it will have a good response rate.
Choosing photos
9. Everyone knows that good photos make a good impression. A color or b/w photo with a clear image of yours, with no blurs or extra effects,
not too big and not too small is always welcome. A photo with friends in a pub, with whoever they are, a photo in underwear, with naked torso, in home stretched t-shirt or with a bottle of alcohol or intimate photo would be qualified as "bad" photos to go with the 1st letter.
10. We do not advice to send photos demonstrating your house, car and other material riches, at least with your first letter. It's supposed that your photos should attract attention to you but not to your possessions.
11. Try to find a photo where you smile. It's better to take a studio portrait or studio photo to your full height, where you're dressed in a stylish suit in which you can go out.
12. No intimate photos in the introduction letter.
Letter
13. Try to keep the letter not too short and not too long. 2 - 3 sentences are not enough to show you're really interested.
Besides in this case the girl will hardly answer you with a longer letter, but the purpose of the correspondence is to know each other better, to help to decide whether you match each other. And you should keep in mind that you're writing not an autobiographical novel but just an Introduction letter. One page or 600- 650 words will be enough.
14. Ask her questions. The following questions will help you to picture the girl's life better and show you care: whether she likes to visit restaurants and discos, whether she has a pet, whether she lives with her parents, if she can drive, if she likes her job, whether she thinks her career to be important, if she plans to have children, what country she would prefer to live in, what she likes and dislikes about her country/city and about her life in general. The questions you put will also help her write a reply to you. Try not to ask too many questions at once and at the same time write about yourself in order it didn't sound like a questionnaire at a job interview. Such approach may offend the girl.
15. Use simple language if you don't order a professional translation for your letter. Especially if you write directly or expect a lady to read and reply your letter by herself, not using an agency translation service, it must not be an IELTS reading test for her.
16. Use a spell checker if possible.
Letters delivery
1. e-mail
Not all potential Russian and Ukrainian brides have personal e-mail yet (especially middle-aged people).
As well as not all people are computer literate, especially if their job is not connected with using a computer. Also a few Russian families can afford a home computer.
This is a reality you should accept. Not everyone uses a computer at work or has Internet connection.
Besides it may be impossible to carry out personal correspondence at work. Internet cafes are more popular among teenagers
who are interested in computer games. Not every girl will have a desire to write to foreign men in such company especially after a long day of hard work.
2. ordinary mail
Sending letters to Russia from the US via ordinary mail is not a very good idea either,
taking into consideration reliability of mailboxes and the speed of delivery. It will take a couple weeks to one direction and the same time back.
If it is sent without a translation and the girl can't write English she can decide that it's useless and not answer at all.
It is good to duplicate letters or send additional photos or post cards like this.
3. Express mail
Express mail is pretty expensive. There is no use to pay $30-80, if there are cheaper, more effective and secure means available.
4. Mail forwarding service most dating services offer
Agency mail-forwarding services seems to be the most convenient way to set up a contact with a woman if she has no personal email.
It usually includes:
a- local postal service;
b- registered postal service. This is a more secure way, especially to deliver mail
to women that live far from the agency office which makes a courier delivery too expensive.
A registered letter is delivered to the local postal office and women have to drop in and pick it up and prove the identity to get it.
It however may take longer as postal services working hours are the same as most people have, which delays picking letter up in time. Moreover
but in case the letter failed agency-sender gets informed
that it can't be delivered only in about 2 months;
c- hand delivery/courier delivery - is usually fastest and safest method of delivery, yet usually quite costly.
Avoid using the services of marriage brokers that hide women contact details or impose their mail forwarding and translation service. Take in mind you always have to have valid contacts of a woman and a possibility to use alternative means to send her a letter or a gift.
